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Sister in need of help!!
sissy
01/19/05 at 14:32:35
[slm]

I looked around on the board to see if this was already posted somewhere, i didnt find it...i thought this would definately be a place where it would have been posted already because of the new yorkers on the board...so if i missed it, i apologize!

Please read the letter below and see if you can be of some help, insha Allah.

[wlm]

AS-SALLAAMU-ALAIKUM

THERE IS A SISTER IN NEW YORK NAMED TAMMY. HER MUSLIM NAME SHE CHOSE IS FATIMAH. SHE HAS A FOUR MONTH OLD BABY GIRL NAMED - MCKAYLA. THIS SISTER TOOK HER SHAHADAH AFTER SHE MARRIED A MUSLIM - ALHAMDULLILAH. Allah HAS TESTED THIS SISTER SO MUCH AND STILL SHE PROCLAIMS - LA ILLAHA ILLAH Allah MUHAMMADAN RASULLULLAH!!!! SHE AND HER BABY NEED YOUR HELP.

THIS SISTER'S HUSBAND LEFT HER ALONE SHORTLY AFTER HER BABY DAUGHTER WAS BORN. HE HAS COME AND GONE SINCE THEN, BUT NOW HE SEEMS TO HAVE GONE FOR GOOD AND CALLED HER TO TELL HER SHE IS DIVORCED. MAY Allah GUIDE HIM AND HAVE MERCY ON ALL OF US.

THIS SISTER FOUND OUT AFTER HAVING HER DAUGHTER THAT SHE HAS CONTRACTED H.I.V. SISTER FATIMAH IS ALSO PREGNANT NOW AGAIN WITH TWINS- ALHAMDULILAH!! SHE IS DUE IN JULY OF THIS YEAR. SHE ASKED ADVICE WHEN SHE DISCOVERED SHE WAS PREGNANT ABOUT ABORTION. AND BECAUSE IT IS NOT ALLOWED IN Islam, SHE DID NOT ABORT HER BABIES. UNFORTUNATLY THIS PREGNANCY HAS CAUSED HER COMPLICATIONS.

NOW SHE HAS BECOME VERY SICK IN THE LAST COUPLE OF WEEKS. SHE WAS HOSPITALIZED AND TOLD THAT SHE NOW HAS FULL BLOWN AIDS. THE DOCTORS HAVE GIVEN HER A PROGNOSIS OF FOUR MONTHS TO LIVE - AND Allah KNOWS BEST WHEN EACH OF US WILL DIE. SHE HAS BEEN SENT HOME ON HOSPICE CARE. SHE HAS A NEEDLE IN HER ARM TO GET MORHINE TO MANAGE THE PAIN SHE IS IN. HER DAUGHTER IS WITH HER IN THEIR APARTMENT ALONE EXCEPT FOR THE NURSES FROM HOSPICE WHO COME TROUGHOUT THE DAY TO GIVE HER MEDICINE.

THIS SISTER NEEDS THE HELP OF THE UMMAH. SHE NEEDS MANY THINGS. THE FATHER HAS LEFT THIS BABY WITHOUT SUPPORT FOR SEVERAL WEEKS NOW. CURRENTLY SISTER FATIMAH HAS RENT THAT NEEDS TO BE PAID, OTHER BILLS THAT NEED TO BE PAID, NEEDS DIAPERS, FOOD, FORMULA, ETC. THE FATHER'S CURRENT ADDRESS IS NOW UNKNOWN AND HE HAS TURNED OFF THE CELL PHONE THAT WAS THE ONLY WAY FOR THIS SISTER TO CONTACT HIM. IT APPEARS UNLIKELY THAT THE FATHER WILL TAKE CARE OF THIS BABY, AND IN ANY EVENT THE SISTER NEEDS YOUR HELP RIGHT NOW.

SHE IS VERY SCARED TO LEAVE HER BABY ALONE IN THIS WORLD. SHE WANTS TO KNOW THAT SOMEONE WHO IS A MUSLIM WILL TAKE CARE OF HER DAUGHTER AND RAISE HER TO BE A MUSLIM. IF THE FATHER COMES BACK INTO THE PICTURE AND EXPRESSES SOME REAL DESIRE TO TAKE PART IN HER LIFE, THEN ALHAMDULLILAH. THE REALITY RIGHT NOW IS THAT SOCIAL SERVICES IS GOING TO STEP IN AND PLACE THIS BABY INTO FOSTER CARE IF SISTER FATIMAH IS HOSPITALIZED AGAIN OR IF HER SICKNESS REQUIRES HER TO GO TO A FULL TIME HOSPICE FACILITY.

SISTER FATIMAH NEEDS TO KNOW THAT HER DAUGHTER WILL BE PROVIDED FOR AND CARED FOR BY MUSLIMS. SO MANY OF US HEAR ABOUT ALL THE PAIN AND SUFFERRING OF THE UMMAH IN OTHER COUNTRIES. WE SAY, "WHAT CAN WE DO? THEY ARE SO FAR AWAY." WE SAY, "HOW CAN WE HELP THEM, THEY ARE ON THE OTHER SIDE OF THE WORLD?" THIS SISTER NEEDS YOUR HELP. SHE IS RIGHT HERE IN THE USA. SHE NEEDS YOUR SUPPORT. YOU CAN EASILY HELP HER JUST BY OFFERRING TO SUPPORT HER IN THIS TIME OF NEED OR MENTIONNING THIS TO SOMEONE YOU KNOW WHO MIGHT BE ABLE TO ADOPT THIS BABY.

IF YOU NEED TO SEE PROOF OF THE SISTER'S NEED, THEN YOU CAN BE FAXED HER DOCUMENTS FROM THE DOCTORS SHOWING HER DIAGNOSIS AND PROGNOSIS OF FOUR MONTHS TO LIVE. SISTER FATIMAH IS VERY WEAK. SHE CANNOT HANDLE A FLOOD OF EMAILS OR PHONE CALLS, BUT IF YOU EMAIL ME I WILL FORWARD YOU TO HER OR TAKE YOUR OFFER OF HELP.

I HAVE MADE SEVERAL ATTEMPTS TO CONTACT ORGANIZATIONS IN NEW YORK TO HELP THIS SISTER. AT FIRST I FORWARDED THESE NAMES AND NUMBERS TO HER, BUT NO ONE ANSWERED HER CALLS OR RETURNED HER MESSAGES. THEN I STARTED CALLING THEM MYSELF, BECAUSE SHE IS TIRED ALOT. AND TO THIS TIME NO MASJID OR MUSLIM ASSOCIATION HAS OFFERED ANYTHING EXCEPT THEIR DUAS. ALHAMDULILAH. Allah HAS POWER OVER ALL THINGS. THIS SISTER NEEDS SOMEONE TO STEP FORWARD TO REALLY ADDRESS HER NEEDS AND HELP HER RIGHT NOW. MANY MASJID AND ORGANIZATIONS ARE TURNING ME AWAY SAYING THAT THEIR IMAAM, OR SHEIK, OR MAULAUNA IS GONE FOR HAJJ AND THEY CAN'T DO ANYTHING RIGHT NOW. THIS SISTER NEEDS OUR HELP RIGHT NOW. SHE IS ASKING YOU NOW DURING THE FIRST TEN DAYS OF DHUL HIJJAH WHEN YOUR GOOD DEEDS MEAN SO MUCH TO PLEASE REMEMBER HER AND TO HELP HER IN ANY WAY THAT YOU CAN.

IF YOU KNOW SOME MASJID OR MUSLIM ORGANIZATION WHO CAN HELP THIS SISTER IN NEW YORK, THEN PLEASE CALL THEM AND FORWARD THIS MESSAGE TO THEM AND ASK THEM TO EMAIL ME. PLEASE. DON'T WAIT. I CAN GIVE THEM ALL HER INFORMATION AND WOULD BE SO HAPPY TO KNOW SOMEONE WAS GOING TO HELP HER. IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO CAN GO TO VISIT HER AND MAKE REMEMBRANCE OF Allah WITH HER WHILE SHE IS DYING, THEN EMAIL ME PLEASE. IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO CAN TAKE POSSESSION OF HER BODY WHEN SHE DIES AND ARRANGE HER JENAZAH, THEN EMAIL ME PLEASE. IF YOU ARE SOMEONE WHO CAN DONATE TO PAY HER RENT FOR THE NEXT FOUR MONTHS, THEN EMAIL ME PLEASE. IF YOU CAN COOK FOOD AND TAKE IT TO HER OR BUY HER SOME PAMPERS, PLEASE EMAIL ME. I AM ASKING YOU PLEASE FOR THE SAKE OF Allah TO HELP THIS SISTER. FORWARD THIS TO EVERYONE YOU KNOW IN CASE THEY CAN HELP HER. SHE IS LIVING IN BINGHAMPTON, NEW YORK.

YOU CAN EMAIL ME AT SADAQAH_HEYE[at]YAHOO.COM

THANK YOU AND MAY Allah BLESS YOU FOR WHATEVER YOU CAN DO TO HELP THIS SISTER AND HER BABY.

AS-SALLAAMU-ALAIKUM
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/19/05 at 16:37:51
I have been in email contact with the sister at the Yahoo address.
She says the Sister in need has recieved much help, money, Walmart cards and offers of adoption for her daughter.

There is a Islamic Scholar (Inam †/ Imam?) who I have emailed her info to.
The last email I recieved said now more than anything what this Sister needs Spiritual help/encoragement.

Salem is on Hajj as is bro Timbuktu, I was going to try his cell phone so he can make Dua in Makkah for this sister.

MAJOR DUA REQUEST ALERT for Sister Fatimah and her daughter.

I am also going to invite her to visit this message board so please post
encouragement for her to read.
I figure with her situation she would be unable to respond individually
Sooooo can we please turn this post into one big message for her :)
Qu'ran verses, words of encouragement and letting her know she is not alone, her family in Islam cares.
Thank you
01/19/05 at 18:24:09
Caraj
Re: Sister in need of help!!
dina
01/20/05 at 05:30:13
[slm] sr fatima,

am absolutely sad to hear your story.....may Allah shower on you his mercy and blessings for your patience and ease your hardship.

May Allah protect your daughter and keep her in islam.

[wlm]
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Brother_Suleyman
01/21/05 at 11:45:33
[quote author=azizah link=board=madrasa;num=1106159555;start=0#1 date=01/19/05 at 16:37:51]I have been in email contact with the sister at the Yahoo address.
She says the Sister in need has recieved much help, money, Walmart cards and offers of adoption for her daughter.

There is a Islamic Scholar (Inam †/ Imam?) who I have emailed her info to.
The last email I recieved said now more than anything what this Sister needs Spiritual help/encoragement.

Salem is on Hajj as is bro Timbuktu, I was going to try his cell phone so he can make Dua in Makkah for this sister.

MAJOR DUA REQUEST ALERT for Sister Fatimah and her daughter.

I am also going to invite her to visit this message board so please post
encouragement for her to read.
I figure with her situation she would be unable to respond individually
Sooooo can we please turn this post into one big message for her :)
Qu'ran verses, words of encouragement and letting her know she is not alone, her family in Islam cares.
Thank you[/quote]

Es_Selam'un Aleykum ve Rahmetullahi ve Berakatuh Sister Azizah,

Please go on the issue,i believe we are ready to do whatever we can,insh'Allah,Jazak Allah Khair..
The sister who needed help in NY
Caraj
01/23/05 at 17:14:10
I am posting this after a conversation with the sisters whose
yahoo email is listed in the other post.

The sister who is ill still needs someone to do an Islamic funeral
Forgive, I hope I spell this right, she is hoping someone
will arrange Jenazah.

I believe we have someone who can do hajj on her behalf
Insha Allah.

Since there are so many sisters here on the board in NY
I though if any of you are close or know someone close
to this sister.
It would just be nice that this sister can spend her
last earthly days in peace with her children and not worrying
about other details.
Can anyone help?
May Allah bless anyone who can try to help Sister Fatimah.

OH and to the brother on the board who made email
contact in regards to Sis Fatimah, thank you for
your kindness May Allah reward you for your compassion.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
sal
01/23/05 at 21:41:34
[slm]The financial part can be set if an account is opened so that we can send to this account what each of us can afford, so sister  sissy what do you think if that account is done under your name?Not only now but can remain open to receive aid even in the future for her daughter .If this proposal is accepted by our sisters and brothers here then we need  to know  the account number

This sister by the way should not feel depressed (if any) because she is told how long she will live according to what doctors say even though that is sensible ,but isnít this a  kind of good chance a person to know when he/she will die if this is true ?

AND LETS TAKE  IT THIS WAY AND  I THINK IT IS

What is the difference between who is told will die and the other one who knows no this because doctors didnít tell when ?

Who of us can guarantee our life will stay longer after this sister ?
We say we help and will make duaa ,yes this is very good thing if we mean if we live and in that case we also need her help as she can live after us

Suppose a person is going to die after a car accident wouldnít he/she wished if he was told how long is left over in his life to make more good deeds ?

Donít you feel sister's  fatima's kind of situation is better than the above one or heart attack ?
Do old people after the age of 70 or 80 lose hope and wait for death because its closer than any other time before ?

They should in term of life span ..not lose hope but be ready  but they still might add more sins over what they have .its because they are not told specifically how ever they spiritually feel they are coming closer to the end .so where is the difference between this sister's situation and this?
The difference I can mention for that  is a person preparing for death after being told I think is a kind of offer from Allah wanting him/her die purified

As for the baby I think there is nothing to be worried about ,In this age everybody is his father and everybody is his mother..Its not in this age that we fear for them who to live with and how to live ,the baby can live with any body its just the heart that makes one feel such a pain but even when we travel and leave our children we feel this kind of distress ,thus still the person who is alive faces such things from time to time
Donít feel itís a particular dreadful only for you because of your particular case

When a woman is divorced either of the parents face such situation since the child will live with  either of  them and therefore where is the difference then?

Sister there is no difference between you and all of us who even are talking about your help as if we are going to live after you .we donít know who is dying before you and who is after you but since its life yes we can talk about arrangements in general for such circumstances even amongst us (those or all of who think we have more time we will live with ignorance) in this term donít worry we will not leave you alone and your baby
Actually human being do not help from their own but is just a  tie between  the donor (ALLAH )and  the beneficiary
If so, besides what we are going to do as be of assistance I have another  agreement I would like to sign with you
If I die before you please make duaa for me and if you die before me I will perform UMRAH and HAJ on behalf of you inshallah
If we die at the same time ALLAH knows our heart

When sister aziza called me  asking to make duaa it was on my way from Muzdalifah to Mina. From that time on  I didnít forget making my duaa with concentration.When it was raining hard the last day of hajI remembered that duaa while raining is accepted so I started making lots of duaa for you using this chance Ö.chance of making duaa while rainig and being in haj at a time
What I want to say is, one of the guranteed duaa is when a brother/sister makes duaa for his/brother so inshallah its accepted  we only need to be confident ALLAH does that


Re: Sister in need of help!!
sissy
01/23/05 at 22:45:56
[slm]

Brother Salem, i think it's a great idea to open up an account but i have to clear up that i am not the sister who wrote that letter, i didnt realise that people could read it like that, i saw it on another forum and posted it on several other forums where i didnt see it yet, in the hope that people would help.

I'm not in america and if i am correct the sister who wrote the letter isnt either...so wouldnt it be best to get someone close to the ill sister to arrange that?

[wlm]
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/23/05 at 22:50:03
Brother Salem, the sister whose email address is in Sissy's post
sadaqah_heye@yahoo.com who is Sister Fatimahs friend says
she has recieved much help, offers to adopt her children when she
passes on and has been given money and store certificates.
What this sisters needs now are spiritual help (visits, encouragement
and such) and also she is concerned about Jenazah (hope I am spelling this right)

This is why I asked the members of the board to post words of encouragement, so she can come read them. :-)

I am told a brother from the board emailed in regards to this sister,
which I thought was very kind.
And Bro Salem making dua, this is a wonderful thing.
01/23/05 at 22:52:44
Caraj
Re: Sister in need of help!!
sal
01/24/05 at 01:22:15
oh sorry  :-[ I thought sister sissy is close to her ..I will send the email to that adress and jazzak allah khair sis azizah and sis sissy for your  kindness .I Hope we can do some thing inshallah
Re: Sister in need of help!!
ummnajmah
01/24/05 at 10:58:02
[slm] This is a very sad situation and whenever I think of Sis Fatima, I'm reminded that life  has various trials and difficult tests on our eeman. Sis, am making dua for you and it makes me happy that muslims have stepped out to help this sister out. I'm not in Newyork or near but I agree with the bro's suggestion of setting up a jannazah fund for her so muslims can contribute. I personally inshallah would like to  one of the people who can assist financially a little of what I can. So inshallah, let's all try to do so and contact this sister and find ways to contribute and help in financial ways and dua.For the bro who is making Hajj on her behalf, mashallah! MAy Allah(SWT) reward you for being such a good example to all of us and most of all for the your noble deeds. Ameen! My eyes fill up with tears when I think of Sis Fatima because I do not know what Allah(SWT) has in store for me, can anyone really?I can only pray and hope . ummnajmah.
mostRe: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 16:11:55
OK up front I need to ask forgiveness if anything is used in wrong text
or not spelled correctly.

A brother on the board has made contact.

Another brother on the board is willing to do umrah and then hajj for
Sister Fatimah.

This sister has offers of adoptions for her children.

She has been sent money and gift cards, so I am unsure if more will be needed a month or two months from now.

About setting up an account, as in sissy's post the sister is most willing to fax medical confirmation of her illness/situation and maybe the next step would be to find someone one the board who is close to Sister Fatimah to make a visit, confim things and then set an account up for those who want to, to contribute.

What costs and time issues are needed to be
thought of for her jenazah?
Forgive me for my ignorance.
Where is this sisters family? Will they want to be invloved?
Is she only Muslim in the family.
How do we assist her in legal paperwork so her wishes with her children are honored?
Is there a local Islamic center able to get invloved?
Has Sister Fatimah already been in contact with them?
Please, more ideas and input is needed brothers †;-)
and sisters. :-)

I am also going to message sadaqah_heye to join us on the board
and answer some questions.
Maybe have Sister Fatimah to visit and read the words of encouragement
and to see she as our Sister in Islam is cared and thought of.
01/24/05 at 16:20:25
Caraj
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 19:27:18
Board sisters and brothers, I have through www.islamicfnder.com
aquired telephone numbers to local sisters, the local Imam
and they are going to visit and be in touch with this sister.

Also after they visit with her and confirm all info and
see what they can do to help, as Brother Salem mentioned an account.
Maybe a local sister who is well known or the Imam can open
and monitor the account then anyone who wishes to help can.

I'll inform you all in the next couple days what is going on,
who visited her and what her needs are.

She is overwelmed with the baby adoption offers and I am
hoping ther Imam can step in and offer guidance.
Please keep this sister in our prayers.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
sal
01/24/05 at 21:13:32
[slm]
Jazzak ALLAH khair sis azizah for your good effort you are doing
She is in our prayers ,and may ALLAH make things easy for her and for us to be able to  help as much as possible
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/24/05 at 21:58:24
[slm]

[i] I don't believe in modifying posts unless it is to change errors, so the italics are the changes aka additions after my conversation with Azizah[/i]

Guess I should read all the posts. But I don't.

What I find amazing is that you know I live in Binghamton and why hasn't anyone made an attempt to contact me?[i] apparently i am not as well remembered as i think I am, Azizh did not remeber I lived here and assumed i read this post [/i]

Tonight I got a call from a sis in a town an hour away. She began to tell me the above story and that a sis from Washington had just called her and she has no idea how Azizah got her number. †I told the sis I had seen the situation through a post on this board but had not read it in its entirety. hmmm... they even spelled the city name wrong.

The whole story sounds a bit off. Reason being the Sis from the town far away has some very wealthy contacts and I, who almost makes it paycheck to paycheck and lives less than a half a mile away... doesn't. Also, i am pretty well known here in this neck of the woods. †Probably because of the library, every woe of help comes my way. Especially the woes of American Muslimahs. [i] Sis Azizh assured me she did the detective work and was given the rich sis number by the local meat market guy...alhumdullillah, I was afraid Azizah was being set up![/i]

Hmmm... to the best of my knowledge I have never met Tammy/ Fatimah... gotta go and check my records. If i have and she is desperately looking for help, why haven't i heard?

Another discrepency... the far away town sis said that she was told no one will take her baby, contrary to what is posted here. [i] Azizah said the sis must have misunderstood here[/i]

The street she lives on is a well known college student area. Perhaps I will stop by tomarrow.

[i] Sis Azizah, sorry you were offended by my posts, I did not intend it to be directly at you. My main concern is that someone is using your natural good natureness and taking advantage of you. Scammers are professional and many in our area have been taken.
I think it is wonderful that you are reaching out so earnestly to help a Muslim in need. May Allah swt reward you.
Insha Allah, Allah will clear the air and make everything clear for us.[/i]
01/24/05 at 22:49:44
Kathy
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 22:40:08
After doing a web search at www.islamicfinder.com I called a brother
who has a halah meat market to ask about Islamic centers in the area
as the ones listed that I was calling were disconnected.
he gave me someones number.
I had no idea who I was calling let alone their finances.
THIS sister does not need $$$$$ she needs spiritual help as mentioned in the above posts
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/24/05 at 22:56:41
[slm]

Azizah, I beleive you when you say she needs spiritual guidance, however I also see that your last 2 above posts mentioned setting up an account. This means money.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
sissy
01/24/05 at 22:57:32
[slm]

I read an update on the situation of sister Fatimah on another forum and i'll post it here below, it says that like sister Azizah wrote she is need of spiritual help and it would be helpful if people would visit her.

Remember:

Abu Hurairah (May Allah be pleased with him) reported: I heard Messenger of Allah (PBUH) saying, "Whosoever visits an ailing person or a brother of his to seek the Pleasure of Allah, an announcer (angel) calls out: `May you be happy, may your walking be blessed, and may you be awarded a dignified position in Jannah".
[At-Tirmidhi].

[wlm]



AS-SALLAAMU-ALAIKUM
ALHAMDULILAH!!! I AM SO HAPPY TO MAKE THIS UPDATE TODAY.
SINCE THE FIRST POSTING ABOUT THIS SISTER THE STORY HAS SPREAD TO SO MANY SITES AND LOCATIONS AROUND THE WORLD. I HAVE RECIEVED SO MANY ENCOURAGING EMAILS AND PHONE CALLS FROM AROUND THE WORLD. ALHAMDULILAH.
THE SISTER WAS IN NEED IN THE BIGINNING FOR SO MANY THINGS. I WAS SO DISCOURAGED BY NOT FINDING ANY ONE TO HELP HER EASILY. BUT Allah USED THIS TO BUILD PATIENCE IN ME. THEN I POSTED MY PLEA FOR HELP FOR HER HERE AND ALSO ON OTHER SITES. AS OF TODAY THE PLEA FOR HELP FOR THIS SISTER HAS BEEN POSTED ON - JANNAH.ORG, SALAFISISTER.NET, AND MUTTAQIYAH.COM. FROM THESE POSTINGS MANY OFFERS CAME IN TO HELP THE SISTER.
MANY MANY FAMILIES FROM AROUND THE USA AND CANADA HAVE OFFERED TO HELP WITH RAISING MCKAYLA AND THE UNBORN BABIES. I AM TRYING TO KEEP A LIST OF ALL OF THEM. ONE FAMILY WAS SUPPOSED TO VISIT THIS PAST WEEKEND. BUT SUBHANNAH Allah THERE WAS A BIG SNOW STORM AND THAT VISIT WAS POSTPONED UNTIL THURSDAY. INSHA Allah THAT WILL WORK OUT AND EVEN IF IT DOESN'T I HAVE SUCH A SENSE OF PEACE THAT THIS UMMAH WILL NOT LEAVE THIS BABY ALONE UNCARED FOR EVER. ALHAMDULILAH.
THERE WAS A SMALL FINANCIAL NEED REALLY FOR RENT MONEY, DIAPERS, AND FORMULA. ALHAMDULILAH. I ASKED FOR WALMART GIFT CARDS FOR THE FORMULA AND DIAPERS. ALTHOUGH I DIDN'T ASK THE AMOUNTS I DID KEEP A LIST OF THE NAMES WHO OFFERED THIS - AND IT IS OVER 40 PEOPLE!!! ALHAMDULILAH. EVEN IF THEY ALL ONLY SENT $5 GIFT CARDS THAT WOULD BE $200. MAASHA Allah. THE PLEDGES FOR FINANCIAL HELP IN THE FORM OF MONEY ORDERS IS AT $1200 IN KNOWN AMOUNTS. THERE IS AN UNKNOWN AMOUNT BECAUSE SOME PEOPLE DIDN'T TELL ME HOW MUCH THEY WERE SENDING. BUT ALHAMDULILAH. THE $1200 IS ENOUGH TO PAY FOR RENT FOR JANUARY, FEBRUARY, MARCH AND PART OF APRIL. SO THAT NEED IS MET TOO.
JUST TODAY I RECIEVED A VERY SPECIAL EMAIL FROM A BROTHER IN SAUDI. THIS BROTHER WENT FOR HAJJ THIS MONTH. WHILE HE WAS THERE HE HEARD ABOUT SISTER FATIMAH. HE WAS ON HIS WAY TO MINA AT THE TIME. HE SAID THAT IT WAS RAINING THAT DAY. HE REMEMBERED THAT Allah ANSWERS DUA ESPECIALLY WHEN IT RAINS. PLUS HE WAS MAKING HAJJ. SO HE SAID HE MADE MUCH DUA FOR HER ALL THE WAY TO MINA. ALHAMDULILAH!!!!! MAASHA Allah. THE SAME BROTHER HAS PLEDGED TO MAKE UMRAH AND HAJJ THIS NEXT YEAR FOR SISTER FATIMAH!!!!!!! SUBHANNAH Allah!!!! INSHA Allah. SO THIS SISTER WILL HAVE HE OBLIGATION OF HAJJ MET THROUGH THIS BROTHER'S GENEROSITY!!!! MAY Allah REWARD HIM.
I AM STILL WORKING TO ARRANGE EVERYTHING FOR THE FUNERAL OF SISTER FATIMAH. I AM HOPEFUL TO HAVE THIS NEED MET BY THE END OF THIS WEEK. THERE ARE SISTERS WHO HAVE SENT BURIAL SHROUDS FOR THE SISTER. AND THERE ARE OTHERS WHO ARE WAITING FOR ME TO SEND THEM INFORMATION SO THEY CAN OFFER TO HELP PAY FOR ANYTHING NEEDED AT THAT TIME. ONE SISTER HAS OFFERED TO MAKE THE GHUSLE OR WASHING OF THE BODY, BUT SHE LIVES IN TEXAS. STILL SHE SAID THAT SHE WOULD FLY THERE TO DO THE WASHING IF I NEED HER TO. MAASHA Allah. I JUST NEED A MASJID TO OFFER TO TAKE CARE OF THIS AT THAT TIME AND THREE PEOPLE TO SIGN A FORM THAT THEY WILL COME TO TAKE HER BODY LEGALLY FROM THE AUTHORITIES AT THAT TIME. SO INSHA Allah THAT WILL ALL BE RESOLVED BY THE END OF THIS WEEK.
I ALSO ASKED ANOTHER GROUP TO VOLUNTEER TO MAKE DAWAH AND EDUCATE SISTER FATIMAH MORE ABOUT Islam. ALHAMDULILAH WE WILL START MAKING HALF HOUR PHONE CALLS TO SISTER FATIMAH EVERY EVENNING AT 9PM HER TIME. WE WILL READ QURAN TO HER AND MAKE DUA TO Allah FOR HER AND HER BABY. WE WILL MAKE DUA FOR THE PROPHET(SAWS) WITH HER. AND WE WILL STUDY BASIC ISLAMIC PRINCIPLES WITH HER. ALHAMDULILAH. MAY Allah REWARD THOSE SISTERS WHO ARE WILLING TO SHARE THIS HALF HOUR WITH SISTER FATIMAH DOING THIS. MAASHA Allah.
THE LAST THING I WANT TO DO TO FULFILL MY PLEDGE TO THIS SISTER IS TO ORGANIZE PEOPLE WHO LIVE NEAR HER TO VISIT HER IN PERSON AND TAKE CARE OF HER. SHE WILL NEED THIS. ANYONE WHO HAS ANY FIRST HADN EXPERIENCE IN HOSPICE CARE AND HOME HEALTH CARE KNOWS THAT THE TOTAL NEEDS OF THE PATIENT ARE NOT MET BY THIS SERVICE. PATIENTS NEED OTHERS BESIDES NURSES TO COME AND HELP THEM WITH THINGS AROUND THE HOUSE. SO I AM HOPEFUL ALSO TO ACTUALLY FIND SISTERS IN BINGHAMPTON WHO WILL VOLUNTEER TO GO ONCE A DAY TO CHECK ON THIS SISTER, VISIT WITH HER, GO SHOPPING FOR HER AND SUPPORT HER.
THANK YOU AGAIN TO EVERYONE WHO OFFERED ANY HELP OR DUA FOR THIS SISTER. IF YOU FORWARDED THIS STORY TO ANYONE ELSE, PLEASE FORWARD THIS MESSAGE TOO SO THAT THEY WILL KNOW HOW WONDERFUL AND MERCIFUL Allah IS AND THAT THE SISTER'S NEEDS ARE BEING MET AND WHAT SHE STILL NEEDS. INSHA Allah.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 23:08:07
[quote author=Kathy link=board=madrasa;num=1106159555;start=10#15 date=01/24/05 at 22:56:41] [slm]

Azizah, I beleive you when you say she needs spiritual guidance, however I also see that your last 2 above posts mentioned setting up an account. This means money.[/quote]

Sister Kathy,
I realize your are a busy sister with dawah, your family and the library but I DID NOT suggest an account. If you read the above posts more carefully Brother Salem was the one to suggest it.
My next post says I was told she already had gotten help just needed spiritual help. I also suggested someone a local Imam or Islamic leader make contact before such an account is opened and it should be by someone in her area.
I just felt your post made me look like I was calling rich people.
Islamicfinder.org does not lis peoples financial issues.
The owner of the meat market gave me a number cause it was the son
of a man who lived closer to this sister and he did not have that fathers number.
I also left a message at a phone number of an Imam.
I am sorry if my actions were not appropriate.
I feel very embarrassed now.
These are reasons people don't like to get involved.
I myself was not even willing to send anything unless a local
leader confirmed the need.
My apologies
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/24/05 at 23:14:25
Just a FYI until i can check this out better:

I googled the name and number Azizah gave me.

The sis's name came up with no findings... this is not unusual.

I then Switchboard the phone number:

And the addresses did not match the phone numbers and different names came came up.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 23:23:24
Kathy, maybe you and the Imam can go and check out this
sister fatimah. Since you live in the same town.
This way we can all know.
I tried to call her today and got her answering machine.
With her voice and name.

Sometimes if a number have changed within 6 months
it does not reflect cross referencing.
Sister Sadaqah_heye does not personally know this sister.
She is a Mod on another board and like me is trying to help.
Please let us know if you and the Imam goes there.
You have the address and phone number.
Forgive me if anything I did was inappropriate.

I just googled myself and my address and nothing even close comes up
01/24/05 at 23:28:41
Caraj
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/24/05 at 23:33:41
[slm]
You have done nothing wrong. I find it commendable that you are trying so hard to reach out and help someone.

In fact, Ii have been thinking how sad it it that I have become so cynical.

Go to switchboard.com
reverse phone search, you can see the results.
01/24/05 at 23:34:25
Kathy
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Caraj
01/24/05 at 23:53:22
Sister kathy,
I just did this and my name comes up at an address on Minnasota.
I have never been there lol
My phone number comes up as no record.
I know this system does not work all the time,
as one of the ranches I applied to for work
did this when I appiled and said my number did not match my name.
I showed them my phone bill to prove that was my number.
Anyway, How about you and a brother, preferably the Imam
go visit her. If you have time. Just knock on the door.
I fear if she read this post she too would be a little embarrassed.
What is really sad is someone trying to check out this sister on
the pc who can just walk over and knock on her door.
And forgive my harshness but who gives dittaly if the person
I called was rich?
I did not ask her for a dime, nor say HI ARE YOU RICH?
Now all I have tonight is an angry spirit, a post by you which makes
my motives look questionable and a long distance bill.
Forgive me if I sound harsh but I am upset.
01/25/05 at 00:18:08
Caraj
Re: Sister in need of help!!
ummnajmah
01/25/05 at 06:48:05
[slm] Sister Azizah, do not apologise for trying your best to help and I applaud the fact that you are one of those people who go out and  DO SOMETHING. I too have just been worried about Sis Fatima and I believe that she indeed needs our help in all ways not just financially. She just converted and could easily have turned the other way becoz help has been slow in coming her way but mashallah has stuck in there with her eeman. We need to rally up and see what we can do.
Sis Kathy, I understand your view. There sick pple who are out to scam people but I feel her situation is genuine. So please let us know what you find out and what she really needs. Jazakallah to you both for helping out. [slm] :-) ummnajmah.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/25/05 at 09:14:47
[slm]

Azizah you are blowing this whole thing out of porportion.

Please re read my post. I amended it shortly after we talked.  Initially i was very concerned when i heard you called the sis. I wondered how you got her number. i was concerned that some scam artist had given it to you.

Of course you did not know the financial records of her family, but I do have a basic idea. It was too ironic that out of the 3000 Muslims in Binghamton, she was the number you called.

After talking to you and you explaining how you got her number, I dropped my concern, told you this and ammend my post...immediately.

Why are you still chewing that bone?

This is giving me a headache.  There is nothing wrong with me wanting to verify the story, especially since you and others are asking me to go to a strange neighborhood and knock on a door.

If there is a red flag, I am going to clarify it before proceceding further. you should not take offence to this.  there has been many scam artisits aka muslims, from NYC who have taken advantage of Muslims in this area. is this fair to Fatimah? Nope, but caution is advised.

The story would be much different if it was a sis you knew and not a copy and paste from another board.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
Kathy
01/25/05 at 10:38:06
[slm]

I called Sr. Fatimah. Too much snow on the ground to make a surprise visit with my 16 year old car!

Bismillah...

I believe she is indeed a sister in need spiritually and financially. She has recieved some monies but needs much more especially for burial.

She has a nurse and is already on morphine, to me this indicates end stage ~ not more than a year.

She wants people to stop calling strangers (Muslims) in our community and telling them her story.  Even more adamant she wants people to stop giving out her address.  She is a shy type person and does not want to publicise her condition in such a small community.

She needs food also and does not want to apply for food stamps because of the donations she has recieved. ( Long story.. our Muslim community had quite a PR nightmare with a group taking funds from the govt. they got caught and jailed)

She will set up a paypal account. i will post it when she does. if you want to send her money you can contact me through this boards IM.

She was very irritated and angry with my phone call. Subhannah Allah, we were able to end on a friendly note. She understood why the many red flags and my extreme caution.  After speaking to her, i was blunt and forceful with my concerns, I am satisfied and my concerns are dispelled. I now know why we have never met and why her phone numbers do not match and why she has/ not contacted the local community.

Insha Allah, Friday we will meet. may Allah swt have mercy on her, grant her charity from the Muslims, and rectify her affairs.
Re: Sister in need of help!!
jannah
01/25/05 at 10:50:12
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slm,

I kinda let this thread go even though it violates our constitutional rules of soliciting help through the board.  

Sigh whenever we let the rules go we end up in trouble. I keep forgetting that they are there to prevent all the issues and problems that come up with this kind of thing.

So everyone who would like to help the sister please contact azizah and salem and kathy. InshaAllah they'll do their best.

Jazakallah khair

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01/25/05 at 10:51:23
jannah


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