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Thinking of You During this Time
Kathy
12/25/03 at 11:45:14
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Yesterday I got a phone call from a born Muslim Sister.

After a bit of small talk and pleasantries, she asked how I was doing.
She said that she had heard that this is a rough time (Christmas Season) for reverts and was wondering if I was depressed and ok.

I was amazed at her thoughtfulness and insight. So many of us are. It is not that we are missing the religious aspects, but of participating in the celebrations and family gatherings.

I used to go through it for years. Al-Humdullillah, with the birth of my son and my commitment to make our holidays special, the feelings no longer exist.

Still, it was really nice and comforting to know that others out there care so much.

May Allah swt reward her.
Re: Thinking of You During this Time
sakura
12/26/03 at 00:13:11
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Kathy, that was so nice of your friend mach'allah.  I was just surfing and found this message and it hit home, because I'm a revert, I have a headcold, I'm on a different continent than my family, I dislike it here, and I'm awfully homesick.   My husband is a born Muslim and he has no clue that a day like today is a bit difficult for me, or at least he doesn't express it well.

Holidays are a strange time for me, because I am still in an "in between" stage....meaning that Christmas rituals are missed, but I haven't managed to get the hang of how to make my Eids special.  Our Eids are disappointing because we are a bit financially strapped, don't have much family around, and have a hard time really getting together with other Muslim families as they all have plans already made usually.

I would welcome your suggestions on how to make Eids a more meaningful and fun time incha'allah.

Fi amanillah
Sakura
Re: Thinking of You During this Time
Marcie
12/31/03 at 09:35:08
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Yes, it does take a while to adjust.  Thanksgiving was always my favorite holiday, but me not celebrating christmas was hard on my mother.  

As for making Eid special, YOU need to take the initiative!  Even in the States one can be left out in the cold.  :P  Al hamdu lillah there is a sister in our community, who has an open house, so those of us, who don't have families, have a place to go.   :-X

I love inviting people over for breakfast on eid.  I used to live in Germany, so I would make muffins, banana bread and have have fresh bread with all of the fixings.  You can invite just one family or reverts like yourself, who don't have any family.  Find something that makes the day special for you.   :-*

That's my spin on things.

[wlm]
Marcie

Ps. Kathy, I met a sister, who knows you!  Subhan Allah it is a small world!  ;)

Re: Thinking of You During this Time
sakura
01/01/04 at 06:20:30
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I like your ideas, Marcie.  I think my problem in general is that I was never raised being a "social" person, hosting events and things like that...I get nervous if I have just one guest over for dinner.  I don't even like to cook!  But when I see people making  well thought-out preparations for a holiday, it's so impressive and it makes me want to learn.

What would your suggestions be for this coming Eid el-Adha?

Sakura
Re: Thinking of You During this Time
Marcie
01/01/04 at 11:07:33
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Subhan Allah we have more in common then you would ever think!!! ;)  Actually I'm not the queen of hosting myself and I don't really like to cook either.   :P  Al hamdu lillah my husband will eat most things and he likes to cook.  I actually get rather nervous myself and worry if people will like my "American" food.  

Will your husband be slaughtering?  Over here it takes all day, so last year I was by myself al hamdu lillah.  If he is going with friends then invite the wives over.  You can make it a girl thing. Depending on how well you know people it can be a potluck with different cultural dishes.  :-[

[wlm]
Marcie

Ps. Where do you live in France?  My husband has relatives over there.    Maybe I could hook you up.  Masha'Allah his cousin is really nice!  Can you guess what country my husband is from?   ;)
Re: Thinking of You During this Time
sakura
01/01/04 at 11:26:22
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Aha, Marcie I think we are identical twins.  Your husband doesn't happen to be Algerian, does he?   ;)

My husband can't stand to do slaughtering, very weak-stomached.  The potluck idea is a good one...give people a way out of eating my cuisine!

I will have to travel to the States soon, and it has just come up that maybe  I'll be spending Eid there with my non-Muslim mother.  I don't know many Muslims there.  Maybe I should just try to go on a fun outing with my daughter, or something like that.  I wish I could make it a very fun time for her (and my mother), so she looks forward to it every year.  What do you suggest for children to make it espeically memorable?  My daughter is almost 5.  

And yes, my mother hates to cook too, and she doesn't like my cooking!   ::)

We are in Marseille, by the way.  I bet you might have guessed that  ;)

[wlm]
Sakura


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